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What Does it Take to Build a Great Relationship Between Girl and Dad

Building a solid relationship between a daughter and her father can be a rewarding and transformative process. Here are some strategies that can help foster a strong bond between them:

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  1. Communication: Encourage open and honest communication between the father and daughter. Create a safe and non-judgmental space where they can express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Active listening and empathy are essential in understanding each other’s perspectives.
  2. Quality Time: Encourage the father and daughter to spend quality time together. Plan activities that they both enjoy and that allow for meaningful interaction. This could include going for walks, playing sports, cooking together, or engaging in hobbies they share. Regularly setting aside dedicated time for one-on-one interaction can strengthen their relationship.
  3. Respect Boundaries: Acknowledge and respect each other’s boundaries. Teenagers may need their personal space and autonomy. Encourage the father to be supportive while allowing the daughter to assert her independence. Respecting boundaries can help build trust and establish a healthy dynamic between them.
  4. Shared Interests: Encourage the father and daughter to explore and engage in shared interests. Discover activities or hobbies they enjoy and facilitate opportunities for them to participate together. This common ground can provide a foundation for connection and create shared experiences that strengthen their relationship.
  5. Supportive Environment: Foster an environment that promotes support and understanding. Encourage the father to actively participate in the daughter’s life, including her academic pursuits, extracurricular activities, and personal interests. Show genuine interest and provide encouragement and guidance when needed.
  6. Positive Role Modeling: Fathers play a vital role in shaping their daughters’ lives through positive role modeling. Encourage the father to demonstrate respect, empathy, and practical communication skills. Modeling healthy relationships and values can significantly impact the daughter’s development and the strength of their relationship.
  7. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If the relationship between the father and daughter is strained or underlying issues affect their connection, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. Family counseling or therapy can provide a safe and structured space for them to address any challenges and work towards building a stronger relationship.

Remember that building a strong relationship takes time, patience, and effort from both the father and daughter. Encourage them to approach the process with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to learn from each other.

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What does an Extraordinary Life for Your Daughter Mean to You?

Creating Amazing Bonds between Fathers and Daughters
They wear your heart on their sleeves. How do you define an extraordinary life for them?

An extraordinary life is a life of absolute balance. Humans are complex and yet not so complex. I love a simplified model that I learned from the great Tony Robbins. Humans are primarily driven by the following needs. I call them engines (Being an engineer, I can relate to them better this way). Let us discuss them below.

Our primary engines.

  1. Certainty, Security
  2. Variety, Excitement, Thrill
  3. Significance, Ego, Self-Importance
  4. Love, Connection, Belong somewhere
  5. Growth – Self-Fulfillment, Self-Improvement
  6. Contribution to Society and Humanity, Giving, Making a difference in other’s life’s.
  7. Spirituality/God – A Connection with the magical world around us. Making sense of the unknowns.

Every human needs fulfillment of all six needs to achieve a balance. However, some engines are stronger than others.

The Engine of Significance: A person driven by the engine of significance can achieve that by shouting at you, getting angry at you, suing you, holding a gun to your head, etc. This is always a dangerous engine and it can operate without our knowledge. It can be engaged productively or destructively. Destructive engagement causes havoc to the self and others. I find my energies are engaged positively and productively when I am angry or upset at a person or a situation. However, it is a conscious decision. Where does your daughter figure on this engine?

The Engine of Certainty: A person primarily driven by certainty is risk-averse. I used to be that person at one point in time. I have changed over time. This engine has become less and less important for me over time. However, all of us desire certainty over many things to operate successfully. Sun comes up every day. Earth is stable and in the same orbit every day. There are four seasons etc. etc. Where does your daughter figure on this engine?

The Engine of Variety, Excitement, and Thrill: If you like to jump off the cliffs, you have this as your primary engine. Any thrill seeking activity is driven by this engine. All of us some need for thrill. The degree of thrill depends upon how strong this engine is within you. Are you a thrill junkie? How does your daughter figure on this?

The Engine of Growth: Self-fulfillment or Self-actualization is one of the greatest engines we have. Most humans engage with this engine positively. Few humans may achieve this through destructive activities as well. This is one of my strongest engines. This can fuel us and make us restless. We can sometimes identify this with “Call to Destiny” or “Destiny Calls”. Great civilizations have been built through this engine and we need to feed this engine in every human being with good fuel. How does your daughter figure on this?

The Engine of Love: We all wish to be loved and understood. We all wish to belong somewhere. This engine bonds families and brings people together. Fuel this engine and you can have a loving family, a loving society and a loving community. How does your daughter figure on this?

The Engine of Contribution: The act of giving signifies that engine. When we contribute our time, effort and resources, this engine is active. This need is actualized when we have addressed the basic engines. People with significant resources turn to giving to actualize this need. Where does your daughter figure on this?

The Engine of Spirituality: This is a magical world. As an engineer, I have a deep appreciation of the laws of nature and the magic surrounding us. We all live in a magical bodies. We always have a desire to figure out the unknowns and mysteries surrounding us. That is the engine of connection to our spiritual selves. Our desire to connect with God is driven by the same engine. It is a powerful and positive engine for the most part. How does your daughter figure on this engine?

Answering the above can help us figure out a plan of action for us and our daughters. A simple worksheet can start the thoughtful process. Let us get started.